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5 Lessons Learned from Counseling at MMYC Spring Conference 2008 – pt. 2 of 2

[#3 - The Power of a Youth Camp/Retreat]

When the Prophet (SAW) grew up in Mecca, he would escape to the Cave of Hira to get away from society for a moment and reflect on life. After Prophethood, this practice of temporarily leaving life continued every Ramadan when the Prophet (SAW) made I’tikaf in the masjid year after year.

My wife, a Michigan native, has been attending the conference as a kid since it began in 2001 and continues today serving as a counselor. She wrote on her blog about the conference.

“I decided to come back again as a counselor this year at the conference, and it’s safe to say, that MMYC magic is still alive and well. I don’t know what it is about the conference that just *works*. Maybe it’s the speakers. Maybe it’s the hype of no parents + spring break + hotels. Maybe it’s the yearning to seek knowledge. Or maye it’s that all throughout the conference I was surrounded by a new batch of Muslim youth, soaking in the MMYC experience, making friendships, and being revitalized.”

I have attended just a few camps and retreats in my life, but every single time they change your life in ways you can’t while living life “normally” with school, work, and home. This is especially so for youth camps and retreats.

A lot of the kids attend public schools, and are unable to spend time with large groups of Muslims their age. When they come and find hundreds of others just like them who share the same experiences and struggles, it goes a long way in solidifying their Muslim identity.

It’s important to attend a conference, camp, or retreat, at least ONCE every year. We need more camps and retreats for the youth, more ways for us elder youth to get active, and we need to build our events better every single year.

[#2 - Grassroots Da'wah is Important Critical in the West]

A’isha (RA) said that if the verses of Quran prohibiting alcohol were to be revealed first, none of the Muslims would have stopped drinking alcohol. The reason the Muslims of Medina were so easily able to mend their entire lives for Islam was because the Quran first solidified the hearts of the Muslims on Allah SWT and the reality that there is a Day of Judgment, Hellfire, and Paradise.

We all want to mold our youth to make the best leaders in the world, but where do we start with them? In the age of what I call “The Hollister Generation,” the generation of text messaging, Facebook, MySpace, and YouTube, I found that nothing worked better than connecting hearts with a few key basics: Allah (SWT) and His Mercy, Paradise and Hellfire, and loving Islam and being Muslim.

I would try and talk to kids about what they reflected on the lectures, or what they thought about some issues here and there, and the conversation would be okay. But when we sat down and talked about repentance, the Day of Judgment, how to get into Jannah, who Allah (SWT) is, how Merciful he really is, etc. their hearts were aching for some baking. You should have seen how these young brothers were hanging on the edge of the story of Barseesa, or about the Hadith of the man who killed 100 people who still made it to Jannah because of repentance. It was awesome!

Also grassroots Da’wah is an activity every Islamic worker in North America should be involved in for two reasons, especially for those seeking higher knowledge.

Firstly, it takes you back to the basics of Da’wah and use your knowledge in interacting with Muslims who are in need of the fundamentals. The Prophet (SAW) asked Allah (SWT) to increase in his ‘ilm, but that’s not all he was involved in like some of us. He (SAW) was still very active in teaching Islam to the Bedouins and laypeople.

Many of us love to sharpen our swords of knowledge, but without experience on the field, how can we expect to wield them efficiently and effectively? Your knowledge is useless if you can’t convince kids that there’s a Hellfire and they can to repent to Allah to avoid it, and you can’t convince them too well without the knowledge in the first place. Getting involved in these types of efforts helps.

Secondly, working with organization specializing on grassroots Da’wah can go really far in dealing with the sectarian problem in our communities. A lot of complaints are made that the knowledge seeking Muslims, college aged and above, are focusing on certain issues, Madhabs, Manhaj, Aqeedah, and Fiqh, while the youth are getting owned by Shaitan. One of the best ways to find that “balance” is to get involved with grassroots Da’wah. Not only does it help us bring focus back to certain priorities, it helps build foundations of brotherhood for those of us with differences.

At MMYC 2008, the organizers appreciated the coming together of brothers and sisters from all sorts of different backgrounds and styles in the interest of the kids and their development. I have to admit, it was wonderful to have that playing field with no labels, no preassumed agendas, nothing. Just old school Da’wah and getting one another to fear and love Allah and His Deen.

[#1 - Your Students are your Counselors]

On the last day, as we were leaving the conference, I told my guys that they were the best counselors I ever had. Each of them looked at me confused, but I explained that we all learn from one another, and that they taught me more than I had ever learned before. The main point of the conference for us counselors was to take charge of a group of kids and guide them through the weekend in helping them increase their Eman. Yet, in taking on the responsibility of counseling four young and ambitious brothers, I found that more than anything, they were shaping me up more than anything else.

Just think about it. You’re in charge of what they can and can’t do. You’re the one who has to wake them up for Fajr. You’re the one who has the responsibility of striking engaging Islamic conversation in a hotel room with a 40″ HDTV with ESPN and movie channels. In the end, you learn a lot more about yourself than you thought you knew before.

I understand now why Imam Malik’s mother wanted him to learn the adab and manners of his Shaykh before anything else. She knew that if he was a person of Eman, his manners would be the most amiable thing about him. This is what Islamic workers need to be, examples of people with Eman and high moral character. You can explain to them a mountain of stories and Hadith, but nothing speaks louder to your kids than the way you carry yourself.

My advice to everyone is to run towards these kinds of events, and stay with them for the rest of your lives. If you’re young, go attend them, ever year/month/weekend. If you’re getting older, go volunteer and run them. And if you’re passed all of that, then go and to speak at, guide, and mold them.

I ask Allah (SWT) to continue to allow us to participate in these spectacular events and guide us to what’s best. I definitely wanna hit up the conference next year, inshaAllah, so if you’re down, hollar.